The High Cost of Kinship: Fentanyl, 401Ks- a Grandmother's Survival Story 🛡️
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Dear Family, Last week, we talked about the "Legal Shield" with Paula Yost—the decision to stop fighting blindly and start using the system to protect our grandchildren’s right to heal. We discussed the "Administrative Weight" of being a caregiver and why being a "troublemaker" is sometimes a requirement for the job. But what happens when that weight isn't just paperwork, but the heavy, suffocating blanket of grief? I recently sat down with Laurel Exner, a woman who has walked through a fire that would level most people. Laurel didn't just lose one child; she lost two to the fentanyl epidemic. We realized that being the Invisible CEO means more than just managing schedules—it means managing a "Hazmat Cleanup" of the soul. It means draining a 401(k) to save a home while simultaneously teaching a traumatized toddler that it’s finally safe to sleep. The Raw Truth: Dropping the Failure Narrative I have to be honest with you: this interview hit me in the gut. Like Laurel, I’ve looked in the mirror and asked that haunting question: Where did I go wrong as a mother? We carry this "Failure Narrative" as if it’s a performance review we flunked. But addiction doesn't care about your resume. Fentanyl hits the motherboard of the family whether you’re rich, poor, or raised in a Christian household.Today, I’m making an executive decision: I am dropping the stone. Shame is a weight that keeps us from swimming, and I have to stop apologizing for a crisis I didn't create. I am forgiving the "Solution Person" I tried to be and embracing the "Architect of Sanctuary" I am now. I am trading my guilt for High-Level Infrastructure Planning. I am not a failure; I am a leader building a future for a child who needs me to be steady, not ashamed. We talk a lot about the 2.7 Million Project, but the real work happens in the quiet moments between the "Executive Meetings" and the "Crisis Management." It happens when we decide to stop carrying a weight that wasn't ours to begin with. Reply to this email with just ONE word that describes the "stone" you are dropping today. Is it Guilt? Is it Shame? Is it Resentment? Is it Perfection? I read every single one of your responses. By naming it, you strip it of its power. By sending it, you remind yourself—and me—that we aren't building these sanctuaries alone. Inside the Project: Episode 112This Week’s Guest: Laurel Exner | The High Cost of Kinship: Fentanyl, 401Ks, and Survival In this episode, we go behind the curtain of the opioid crisis. Laurel describes the harrowing 90-minute window where her world vanished and the "Administrative Weight" of legalizing an adoption while the paramedics were still a fresh memory. We discuss the "Financial Hit" of using retirement funds to survive and why "Potty Training" is actually a battle for a child's motherboard. ​[🎧 LISTEN TO EPISODE #112: Laurel Exner]​ The Reflection RoomLaurel challenged us with a radical piece of advice for the darkest days: "Go ahead and cry." Ask yourself today: Am I trying so hard to "be the CEO" that I’ve forgotten to be the human? A leader who suppresses their grief eventually short-circuits. Are you looking at your 5-year plan and feeling paralyzed, or are you willing to just look at the next hour? The shame belongs to the drug, not to you. Are you ready to look at your reflection and see a survivor instead of a failure? The Toolbox: Tactical Moves
You are the keeper of the future, and your bravery is the only legal document that matters in their file. We are 2.7 million strong. Still nurturing, and still here. See you in the next boardroom, Laura Brazan Founder, The 2.7 Million Project/Host of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity |
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