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Dear Family, Last week, we celebrated a massive "Executive Win" with Mary Hels-Jager. We talked about the relief of the final adoption decree and the reality of the "Triple-Decker Club Sandwich" generation. But once the legal sanctuary is built and the red tape is cleared, a new challenge begins: The Promotion. I recently sat down with my teen-parenting go-to, Jeanine Mouchawar. She helped me realize that as our grandchildren grow into their pre-teen and teenage years, we are being asked to step out of "Middle Management" and into the role of CEO. We realized that we can’t lead our teens into a healthy future if we are still micromanaging them out of a fear of their past. The Raw Truth: The Silence in the Hallway I’ll be the first to admit it: my biggest fear isn't the "fire" of a tantrum anymore—it’s the silence. I fear the day my grandchildren stop coming to me because they think I’m too busy being a "solution person" to just be their "human person."
Last week, when I felt that familiar heat of worry rising because of a door slam, I wanted to tighten the grip. I wanted to demand answers. But Jeanine reminded me that fear is a repellant. If I walk into that hallway with "doomsday thoughts," I’m not leading; I’m colonizing their space. I’m learning to listen to the "watermelon Jolly Rancher" smell without jumping to a level-10 judgment. I’m learning that my power isn't in my punishment—it’s in my presence.
Inside the Project: Episode 117 This Week’s Guest: Jeanine Mouchawar | The Executive Promotion: From Micromanager to Teen CEO In this episode, we tackle the "Side-Door Approach" to communication. Jeanine explains why traditional rules and punishments often fail with traumatized teens and how to trade "Hulk Brain" for "Bruce Banner Brain." We discuss the "Five Simple Words" that can break a silent standoff and why your teen’s rebellion is often just a search for autonomy. [🎧 LISTEN TO EPISODE #117: Jeanine Mouchawar] The Reflection RoomJeanine challenged us with a powerful shift in perspective: You’ve been promoted. Think about a CEO you admire. They don’t stand over their employees' shoulders; they set the vision and build the guardrails. Ask yourself today: In my home, am I a micromanager or a leader? Am I fighting to win the argument, or am I fighting to keep the relationship? Connection is the only currency that matters in the teenage years. Are you willing to "talk less and listen more" to buy back the influence you need? The Toolbox: Tactical Moves
See you in the next boardroom, Laura Brazan Founder, The 2.7 Million Project/Host of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity |
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