🛡️ From Foster to Adopt: When the "Village" is missing...


Legacy Builders

Connecting Hearts, Nurturing the Future

Vol. 1, No. 64 | January 13, 2026

Dear Family,

Last week, we talked about the Manifesto—the decision to move from survival to significance. But let’s get practical: how do we actually "significantly" parent when we are 68, tired, and dealing with arthritis or the heavy weight of a sudden move?

I recently sat down with Rachel Fulginiti, and we had a conversation that hit me right in the heart. Rachel spent a decade in the "fire" of infertility and foster-care debt before finding her "warrior children." We realized we shared a common secret: We aren't the parents we thought we’d be.


Journal Excerp: The "Uprooted Oak"

“Six months ago, we uprooted our lives. We moved 2,222 miles from Montana—my home of 47 years—to Louisiana. It was a tactical shift to benefit the children, but it was one of the most agonizing maneuvers I’ve ever executed. I left my community, my two adult children, a stepdaughter and her family, and four other grandchildren. I left my circle of trusted doctors, my fresh mountain air, and the blue-water majesty of the peaks that held me. I am making the 'right choice', but I am learning that the right choice is rarely the easy one. This move was just one "right choice" in a thousand hard ones we’ve made since becoming their guardians\”

The "Invisible CEO" isn't the person who does everything; it’s the person who ensures everything gets done. Admitting the "Uprooted Reality" doesn't mean you're failing; it means you're human.


Inside the Project: Episode 95

In this week's episode, Rachel and I take the "Invisible CEO" mindset into the foster-to-adopt world. We discuss:

  • Menopause meets Kindergarten: The radical honesty of parenting later in life.
  • The Tribal Solution: Why "delegating play" is a survival skill, not a failure.
  • Emotional Sobriety: Using Al-Anon principles to survive a broken system.
  • The "Warrior Children": Reframing trauma as a badge of strength.

🎧 [From Foster to Adopt here]​


The Reflection Room: Building Your Roster

For the book, I’m exploring a chapter on "The Architecture of the Village." I want to hear your creative solutions:

What is one thing you’ve had to "delegate" or "let go of" because you simply didn't have the energy or capacity? How did you fill that gap?

Hit REPLY and tell me. Whether it's a high schooler who runs them at the park or a neighbor who handles the "noisy" play, your creative solutions will help other grandparents in our book.


The Toolbox 🛠️

  • The "CEO Audit": List three things you do every day that leave you depleted. Circle one. This week, your goal is to find one person to help with that one task.
  • The 72-Hour Guide: If you're new here and still in the "Shock Zone," [download the survival guide here].

The Foundation: Essential Listening 🛡️

New to the Project? Start with these three "Invisible CEO" essentials:


I’m Laura Brazan. We are 2.7 million strong. We are the keepers of the future, and even when our knees are weary, we are still leading.

Sending you peace,

Laura Brazan

Founder, The 2.7 Million Project/Host of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren: Nurturing Through Adversity

​https://www.grandparents-raising-grandchildren.org/​

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